3 Crucial Laws To Flirty Text Messages
Flirting Tips For Men
Texting is the greatest tool for men if they want to build attraction. Why is that?
Well, first let's talk about attraction triggers. Attraction triggers are all the parts of you that you have to account for when interacting with someone. How you handle those areas of you that will either build or destroy attraction. Those parts (or attraction triggers) are your hair, eyes, smell, confidence, flirtyness, words, timing, clothes, witty remarks, and the list keeps going. The greatest challenge with real world attraction is that you have to account for many of these attraction triggers and if you goof up on a few important ones, your success with a woman goes down the drain.
This is why texting is the greatest tool! Texting makes it so all you have to account for are words and timing. You text the right words at the right time and you can expect to triple or double your success in dating. I have seen it happen hundreds of times.
Before we jump in you need to understand that flirting is the first step in building attraction. From a guy's rational perspective, it's unnecessary because she has already created attraction with her appearance. But it's crucial to a woman's attraction towards you because she is still waiting for a reason to want you. And the best way to do this is through sending flirty text messages. I'm going to share the 3 laws that apply whenever I start coaching men on this subject:
Law #1 - Use the power of suspense - 10 Minute Rule
Suspense creates the roller coaster effect in your flirty text messages. The best way to start applying this is to apply the ten minute rule. That is, when she sends a vulnerable message, wait ten minutes before replying. A vulnerable text messages is something like, "are you free tonight to meet up?" or "do you want to hang out?" This delayed gratification builds suspense and starts creating this uneasy feeling inside which is making her want you more and more. Then, after ten minutes you let her know that everything is cool and all that tension inside of her is released and she's so much happier and almost privileged that she gets to hang out with you.
The point is, women love to feel and be emotionally involved in whatever she is doing. It's a big part of what drives them. So if you can be at the front of that emotional roller coaster she is going to be pulled towards you. It's really that simple. At times, put suspense in your text messages and you will start moving in the right direction.
Law #2 - Keep it fun, light and un-needy
I bet everyone reading this has run into a few instances where they became stressed about sending the right flirty text message. This is never a good place to be. In time, most women, especially the exceptional ones, will read into this neediness and get turned off. You need to stop caring so much about what you're sending and instead you need to just stay in a fun and light mood and then start texting. Most importantly, you need to move on and NEVER second guess yourself. If you just relax and understand that there are plenty of fish in the sea, then you will start sending the right flirty text messages.
Law #3 - Build Attraction not Friendship
Words influence everyone's life. Words determine where all our relationships go and how strong they are. Now I can't just give you a bunch of flirty text messages because it takes a lot more to explain the big picture. However, if you want a ton of proven flirty text messages that work, it would be in your best interest to get the eBook "The Ultimate Texting Guide." It goes into great detail with what flirty text messages women respond to.
I will give you a few flirty tips to get you moving in the right direction. The main one you need to understand is: use text messaging to build attraction not friendship. This is the area that most men fail because they become so used to sending friendly messages to friends that when it comes time to send a flirty text message, they go on auto pilot and send their normal friendly messages. This really destroys your success with women. The key is to be able to discern between the two.
Here are two text messages - one friendly and one flirty. See if you can discern between the two. The scenario: a woman texted two guys and invited them to go shopping with her.
Guy #1: "Ya I would love to go shopping with you. I got to be back in two hours, are you ok with that?"
Guy #2: "I would go shopping with you, but I don't want you to be tempted to make out with me in the dressing room."
Yes, I'm sure you guessed example #2 was flirty. Now the key is to be able to send these flirty text messages at the right time. When done correctly, this is definitely an area where I see men triple or double their success with women.
Remember, we don't get on a roller coaster because it's boring... if you're boring, women won't respond well to you for the same reason. Keep it fun and flirty and stay away from the friendly text messages.
Tyler Tray is the author of "The Ulitmate Texting Guide for men" and has taught hundreds of men on how to be more successful with women.
P.S. Enjoy the free texting tips. Now, what I've noticed in the past few years of coaching men about texting is that most men really don't know how to utilize the power that texting can have on their success with women. Before going any further, you should really ask yourself these questions:
- Do you ever find yourself sending text messages that failed?
- Do you seem to spend way to much time trying to think of the right line to say?
- Do you seem to send messages that don't get the results you want?
If you have answered yes to any of these, don't feel alone. It's becuase most men text women like they are friends and it destroys the attraction.
The hard part is that this kind of texting is ingrained and it's very dificult to step outside of the box and see what really creates the attraction and sexual tension with the women you desire. The worst part is, most men will never see what kind of success they could have had.
This is why I created The Ultimate Texting Guide. You'll discover over 101 time-tested and proven text messages along with seeing exactly what women respond to and how to apply it through texting and day-to-day conversation. At the moment, I'm also including 3 of my top interviews with dating gurus where they cover topics on style, body language, flirting, facebook/myspace secrets, and more. On top of this, I am offering proven steops on how to get phone numbers and the fool proof phone call that always gets you the date.
If you really want to see some drastic improvments in your success with women, you're going to need to step outside of your box and see what women really respond to. I gaurentee if you apply the Secrets found in The Ultimate Texting Guide, your success with women will double. In fact, if that doesn't happen in the next 60 days, I will refund every penny back to you with no questions asked. Just click the link and let's get started on texting some irresistible text messages...
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